It's Okay to Feel Sad (About the Superbowl)
Updated: May 31
Originally posted on facebook.com/drmattzakreski
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I've been having a tough few days. Not majorly rough, just a little down...a little off.
I try to practice what I preach about sharing my feelings, so I told my wife. We talked through the things that were going on, both big (#covid19 among others) and little (day to day stressors) and we came to a conclusion:
I'm missing the #Superbowl.
Specifically, I'm missing my annual Superbowl Party. I love to get my friends together and get all the trimmings:. Chili (I cook mine for at least 6 hours/), wings, beer, nachos, etc. Its not even that I care that much about football. It's more that I find the Superbowl to be a great event to break up the monotony of winter. Plus, any excuse to get the friends together and indulge is good enough for me.
But I can't this year. Because this year is unlike any other.
Covid-19 has taken many things from us all this year. Our loved ones, our safety, our economy, and our health. We have missed birthdays, anniversaries, holidays, weddings, and hundreds of other moments. In the grand scheme of things, what's the big deal about missing one more event, especially one that isn't as important as the things I mentioned above?
I share this story with you for one more important reason. When I finally figured out what was bothering me, I said that it was stupid to be so upset about something so small. And my wife reminded me that there is no threshold that one must meet to be upset. If it bothers you, it bothers you. That's enough. Accepting your own experience is the key to self-compassion. And once I stopped beating myself up for feeling sad about something, I started to feel better.
Tomorrow won't be the Superbowl I'm used to. I'll probably be bummed out about it. And that's ok.
How you feel is how you feel, and perfectly valid. Giving yourself the gift of that acceptance is probably the best thing that you can do for yourself.
Enjoy the game my friends. I know I will.